MY 2022 LESSONS (Part I)
2022 for me was a year of growth, and that would be the word I would choose if I even had to describe my year in one word. With that, a bunch of lessons came with it that I am grateful to have that kind of introspection and now also be able to share with my readers. So with all said, I now share with you my first 5 lessons from last year and I hope you enjoy reading them as much as I enjoyed writing them.
QUICK DISCLAIMER: All the information provided down below is all based on my perspective and my experience and should not be considered psychological advice.
Enjoy your reading.
1. ISOLATION
Being isolated was one of my biggest lessons in 2022 because for once I was able to fully enjoy my own company. With that, I was able to manage and control my thoughts and emotions (see nr 5) without having to worry about external distractions.
I was more in tune with myself, and I was able to trust myself and my intuition more, and in most cases, I was able to make the best decisions of my life.
At first, it was difficult, I felt aimless and it was overwhelming, but as the days went by, my vision started to be more clear, as it seemed like "I had no choice" but to deal with everything that was under the rug.
Plus, I was able to enjoy my time with other people more than I used to, not having to worry about what was going on with my life and trying to find the answers right there and then instead of being present and enjoying the quality time with my people.
2. SETBACKS
As you walk your path, you will understand and accept that living a happy life is not only about experiencing the good, and that sometimes you will face setbacks.
And what's beautiful about them is that it contains something that you should learn to shape you and become a better version of yourself to go even further.
It is unpleasant, indeed, but it's necessary if you don't want to be stuck. Therefore, your setbacks should be embraced and lived to the fullest, and you should gather as much wisdom from that situation because you know that a better stage of your life is about to come, where you can apply said wisdom.
3. PRESENCE
Being present was also one of my biggest lessons because I am now able to enjoy more what I do in the present moment without daydreaming about the future or replaying what happened in the past and even thinking about what I could've done at that moment (that won't return).
What was done belongs to the past, it belongs to death, it's something that you can't recover, and the future is uncertain, a lot can happen and there's a 50/50 chance of being better or worse than what you've been daydreaming about.
And what can increase the odds of having a better outcome? The Present moment. The action that you take right here and right now not only may determine your future outcome, but it's also the only thing in your entire timeline that you have full control of, that's why it's called a gift.
You can literally use the present moment in your favor by aligning your actions with your affirmations and focusing on becoming a better person, on doing your current task at your absolute best.
You're also able to pay close attention to your surroundings, become a better listener whenever someone talks to you, and much more just by taking full control of that moment that will soon go away and belong to the past.
4. GRATITUDE
I've already made an article talking about gratitude and why is such a good trait to have as a human being, and you can check it out here, that's why I won't dive too deep into it.
But it's still one of my biggest lessons because ever since I started to be more grateful, I was able to find the good in every situation, including the setbacks, as mentioned before, and my life became more simple.
Not only that, but I came to realize that in life there are so many things to be grateful for, and not take stuff for granted, because there's still a possibility of being taken away from you, and some of them cannot be recovered.
5. EMOTIONS
Emotions are part of our core nature, it's something that we experience even at our early ages. But as you grow up and embark on your self-development, you realize that sometimes the way you express your emotions is not always the correct way.
One thing I like about stoicism is that it teaches you this lesson, it teaches you the true sense of controlling your emotions. It's not about suppression, as many people think and also know that it's not the best way, if not the worst way, but instead, is about how you use it in a healthy/productive way.
For example, whenever you're angry at someone, instead of straight-up arguing with the person, which may lead to an unsolicited physical altercation, you step back and go to the gym and use it as fuel, or let it all out in a journal to organize your thoughts at the moment.
That way, you avoid taking action that you might regret later on while also being productive, and eventually solve your issue in a better way by having a calm conversation about the matter or simply ignoring it.
Another thing I noticed about this is that my emotions are no longer driven by my situation at the moment, I do not impulsively react to it. Instead, I accept the situation first, and then I choose how to react to it, by feeling a different emotion and eventually take better decisions.
So these were my 5 lessons of 2022, and are now the principles that I currently go by and use in my favor throughout my journey, and hopefully can give you some insight on what you need to follow your own path.
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